KATHRYN CHANDLER

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To educate, inspire and encourage woman to be the best version of themselves possible and support them on their own personal journey to wellness…

How To Find Your Tribe & Love Them Hard

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Your vibe attracts your tribe”

Hey Gorgeous Goddess,

If your soul has been craving connection with like-minded women then this is a must read! Today’s article is all about how to find your tribe and love them hard. In this article I’m diving into why finding your tribe is essential to your health & happiness. I’m uncovering the benefits of establishing healthy relationships and teaching you how to call in your soul sisters. You’ll learn why you need to let go of expectations and I’m busting a big myth around friendships. You’ll learn how to grow & nurture your relationships. I’m sharing 10 ways you can shower your soul sisters with love, Plus, I’m highlighting the importance of the top 5 (this is so interesting)! This article is absolutely busting with juicy info.

Are you ready to rock your relationships?

Let’s dive in!!!

Over the years I have had the most incredible friendships with soul sisters (and soul brothers) that I am truly grateful for. Some friends have come into my life for just a season, some are relatively new but most of my friendships were formed in primary school and early high school and they have certainly stood the test of time as those friendships remain strong today! However about 10 years after I finished high school, my soul started craving connection with other like-minded women in the health industry. It had been a really long time (over a decade) since I felt the need to form new connections and honestly, I had to learn how to make friends as an adult. I like to think of it a little bit like dating, you have to build up the courage and confidence to put yourself out there, get out of your comfort zone and be open to the possibility of rejection. It can be a little daunting, but it can also be fun, exciting, and deeply rewarding!

Why Finding Your Tribe Is Essential To Your Health & Happiness

Research shows that your social connections can have a long-term impact on your wellbeing. If you look at the Blue Zones around the world, one of the key things that is linked to longevity is connection and tribe. It has been said that “Behind every successful woman is a tribe of other successful women, who have her back.” When you have tribe, when you have sisterhood, when you have the support of the feminine energy, you become an unstoppable force and incredible things start to happen.

The Benefits Of Establishing Healthy Relationships:

– Brings more happiness into your life.

– Has a positive impact on your mental health.

– Improves self-confidence and self-worth.

– Relieves stress, provides comfort and joy.

– Provides support through major life events.

– Prevents feelings of loneliness and isolation.

– Increases your sense of purpose and belonging.

– Inspires you to be your best self.

– Motivates you to achieve your dreams & goals.

 

How To Call In Your Souls Sisters

Your vibe attracts your tribe, in other words what you put out is what you will get back. The Law of Attraction states that we attract into our lives people, things, and circumstances that correspond with our dominant patterns of emotional thinking. This is sometimes referred to as magnetism. So if you want to call in a friend who is trustworthy, honest, dependable, loyal, non-judgmental, deeply caring and supportive then you first need to be all of those things yourself! Simply put, be the kind of friend that you want to have.

Here’s A Few Things You Can Do To Call In Your “Soulies”:

1.Use an affirmation like “I welcome new connections and open myself to the possibility of new friendships”

2.Every morning, during your meditation, visualise being surrounded by like-minded women who share your common interests.

3.Work with Lapis Lazuli, the gemstone best-known for friendship.

4.Make an effort to connect with the women you see frequently (This could be women in your fitness classes, at your kids’ school or even at your favourite café).

5.Find a women’s gathering near you (If you are on the Sunshine Coast, join The Goddess Tribe – my monthly soul sister circles under the full moon!)

6.Attend local networking or community events.

7.Volunteer somewhere that lights up your soul.

8.Reach out to the women you follow on social media. (I have done this and have made beautiful friendships because of it).

8.Say “Yes” to invites.

10.Start a new hobby or social sport.

11.Join a study group or mastermind group.

Tip: Keep your heart open to new experiences, new friendships, and new connections!

Let Go Of Expectations

So often we enter new relationships with expectations and pre-conceived ideas of how the relationship is going to be. You might think things like…

– This is going to be the best, we’re going to hang out all the time!

– We can go to yoga every week together and have a long lunch after.

– My bestie is totally going to throw me a surprise birthday party this year.

– I am sure we’ll call or message each other every day to keep in touch.

We form this idyllic picture in our head of how we want things to be and when that person doesn’t fulfill those expectations, we get disappointed and disheartened. It is because of this that I am a strong believer that expectations ruin relationships. This is why it is so important to let go of expectations and also practice clear and concise communication. There is a very good chance that your bestie is not a mind-reader, so if you want something then speak up and ask for it! You can also ask your bestie what they need from you to feel good in the relationship too.

Tip: Do The 5 Love languages Quiz together to better understand each other’s needs!

Myth Buster!

Don’t limit yourself by thinking that your soul sisters need to live close to you for the relationship to work. You can TOTALLY have best friends that live in different states or even in different countries! I have friends all over Australia and we keep in touch via Skype regularly. Plus having long-distance friendships gives you an excuse to go on holidays to visit them!

How To Grow & Nurture Your Relationships

If you want to have thriving relationships, then you need to put in the time and effort to grow and nurture them. It’s just like having a houseplant, if you want your plant to grow then you need to look after it by giving it nourishing soil and just the right amount of water, sunlight and love!

Here’s A Few Things You Can Do To Show Up As A True Friend:

1.Be kind and caring

2.Be an active listener

3.Be open and honest

4.Be trustworthy and avoid gossip

5.Be available and give your friends quality time

6.Be supportive

7.Be positive

8.Be dependable, show up and demonstrate that you are reliable

9.Be non-judgmental

10.Be loyal

How To Love Them Up!

It is so important to let your soul sisters know how much you care about them and appreciate them. When you express how much someone means to you it can help to strengthen your bond. If you are in my tribe, I can promise one thing, you will be absolutely showered with LOVE!!! I use any opportunity I can to tell my soul sisters how incredibly special they are and how much I love and adore them.

Here’s 10 Ways To Shower Your Soul Sisters With Love:

1.Send your girlfriend a thoughtful message or voice message.

2.Call one of your besties to check-in on how she’s doing (focus on HER, don’t just talk about yourself!).

3.Give your soul sister a handwritten letter or card and share how much she means to you.

4.Organise a surprise picnic or activity for the two of you to do together.

5.Make your besties favourite meal or dessert and take it over to her house.

6.Gift a massage voucher “just because”.

7.Take your friend a bunch of fresh flowers or have them delivered to her house/work.

8.Create an essential oil blend just for her to use as a natural perfume.

9.Organise a “wellness weekend” with all your favourite peeps!

10.Gift your soul sister a self-care box filled with crystals, essential oils, herbal tea, bath salts, soy candles, certified organic body cream and anything else you know they would like.

The Importance Of The Top 5

Did you know that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with? The people you surround yourself with have the biggest influence on your behaviour and mindset. Their influence on what you think, say and do can change the course of your life! Around the end of 2019 I started to become very intentional with who I spent my time with. I literally wrote out a list of all the beautiful women I had in my life at the time and very mindfully highlighted those that I wanted in my “Top 5”. I wanted to be clear with who I planned to invest my time and energy into and whose influence I welcomed most into my life.

Tip: Choose quality over quantity! It’s all well and good to have a large social group but realistically we simply can’t give the same level of attention and care to ALL of our friendships. So choose 3-5 friendships that you want to grow, deepen and see flourish. 

So gorgeous girl, I hope this article has inspired you to get out of your comfort zone and start calling in some EPIC new friendships with like-minded women! I promise that if you take this info on board and start putting it into action, your relationships are going to go to the next level. Finding your tribe, your sisterhood, your soul sisters is vital to your health and happiness so make it a priority TODAY!

If you found this article to be beneficial on your wellness journey, then please share this with your besties right now. I want to spread the message of true health and happiness to as many people as possible and I would LOVE your help so get sharing!

Love Kat Xx

Ps – I would love to see a pic of you and your besties! Share on social media and don’t forget to tag me @kathryn.chandler so I can send an abundance of love and support your way!